Premarital Mentoring
Cornerstone offers marriage preparation through couple on couple mentoring. If you are currently engaged or are interested in pursuing marriage, please read our approach to premarital mentoring below to see if you think this could be a blessing to you. If you’re interested, please complete the form below. Questions? Please contact Care Pastor, Nina Read, at nread@cornerstonetulsa.org.
Why premarital mentoring?
Cornerstone Premarital Mentors are married couples who facilitate conversation and training for you and your fiancé as your prepare for marriage. Mentors receive in-depth training and follow a robust curriculum.
Mentoring prior to marriage is an opportunity to develop, practice, and strengthen skills that will equip you and your spouse for long-lasting respect, friendship, and joy. Mentors will help you and your partner discuss expectations, set goals, and create plans for conflict resolution. For all of this, we use a curriculum called Prepare Enrich.
Why PREPARE ENRICH?
PREPARE ENRICH first provides each partner with an easy-to-use, confidential, online assessment. Assessments can be customized based on the background and needs of each couple (previous marriages, blended families, age, and faith-based scales). Mentors will use this assessment to facilitate growth in needed areas and a personalized workbook will be provided to each couple with structure for mentor meetings and exercises to do at home.
PREPARE ENRICH includes a personality profile for each partner; a survey of relationship dynamics measured by assertiveness, self-confidence, avoidance; and 10 core scales of relationship health:
Communication
Conflict Resolution
Partner Style and Habits
Financial Management
Leisure Activities
Sexuality and Affection
Family and Friends
Relationship Roles
Children and Parenting
Spiritual Beliefs
How long does Premarital mentoring last?
Before meeting with your mentor couple, each partner will take an online assessment that lasts around 20 minutes. After taking your assessment, you’ll set a schedule with your mentor couple meeting on a weekly or bi-weekly cadence. On average, couples meet with their mentors for 8 weeks with the last meeting occurring after the wedding.
How much does it cost?
The PREPARE ENRICH online assessment costs $35.
Will someone officiate my wedding?
Because of the number of couples who get married at Cornerstone, we cannot guarantee that a Cornerstone pastor will be available to officiate your wedding. However, we recognize that marriage is a sacred rite and, for those who are members of Cornerstone, we want to make ourselves available. Please indicate if you need an officiant when you complete your registration form and we will work with you.
Officiants:
Jon Odom, Rector
Max Diener, Assistant Rector
Nina Read, Care Pastor
Be a Premarital Mentor
If you and your spouse would like to serve as premarital mentors, fill out the form below.